20 Jun 2010 6:56 AM
|Hi, just decided after 3 and a half years here in sunny Brisbane that we are moving back to the UK. Just can't settle. really weird have a lovely 5 bed house paid for, 4 kids who love it here, BUT we miss our families we feel lost and alone. Have many friends here and hubbies brother and family are here but I have left a mum and sick dad behind plus 3 brovs a sis and all my neices and nephews, two who are under 2.
Any feelings or discussions on this??
21 Jun 2010 11:42 AM
|If you do go back, become citizens before you go.|
21 Jun 2010 12:16 PM
21 Jun 2010 3:48 PM
|can totally understand although we have not been here as long, starting to feel the same way. Family and long term friends are a big part of the reason why we are thinking of returning to the uk. Nothing against oz cant help the way we feel.|
21 Jun 2010 8:24 PM
there has been a recent discussion on this one on the board already you may want to have a read if havent already, there are some very good points in there to consider.
i see you already have citizenship so not an issue there!!
the title to the thread is
Re:Re:Re:Is anyone else thinking of returning to UK ?
but if you search for my name you should be able to pick the thread up from there!!!
good luck with your decision and move should you decide to go ahead!
21 Jun 2010 10:51 PM
|Please excuse my ignorance but why do you suggest becoming a citizen. I thought so long as you had perminant residancy you could more or less come and go as you please. We are here on 457 visa and had only thought we might seek PR before leaving.|
21 Jun 2010 11:01 PM
|Becoming a citizen gives your the right to come and go as you please for life with an Oz passport. Permenant residency doesn't, I believe once you have PR you can obtain a resident return visa which lasts five years, I'm not a full bottle on RRV, someone else on here could probably shed more light on this.
You have to be a PR for 4 years before you can become an Oz citizen.|
21 Jun 2010 11:08 PM
|Thanks for that. i suppose we should really go and find out for sure. That said I tried finding out about property issues and it has proved really hard to get answers. I tried phoning FIRB but never got through to a human. I then emailed them a series of questions for which I am still waiting a response two months later.|
22 Jun 2010 12:32 AM
|Once you have a PR, any time spent in Australia on a 457 prior to becoming a PR, counts towards the 4 years for citizenship(or 2 years if you validated your PR before June 1st 2007). Being a PR gives you the right (at the moment) to obtain an RRV. Being a citizen, gives you the right to vote, makes your children citizens by right and gives you the freedom to come and go as you please without visas etc.|
22 Jun 2010 11:56 AM
|To keep getting your Resident Return Visa i think you have to do 24 months in 5 years in Australia to get it renewed , there are stipulations such as 12 of those months need to be in the year before you renew your visa, basically you have to prove your tie to Australia. where as a citizen does not
24 Jun 2010 7:04 AM
|Hi yes we beacame citizens this Aus day we did say we will come and give it a go, we really did it for the kids so they have a choice when they are older.
we havent told them yet I know it will be harder this time they are so settled it just me and hubby can't. I think or am hoping deep deep down the kids will want to come (well no choice really) but my eldest is 18 so if he wants to stay I will be devastated.
wish me luck x|
25 Jun 2010 12:42 PM
|Just a few things to think about:
How will you feel when your kids move back & stay in Australia with your grandchildren (not just neices and nephews)?
How will you feel when one of your parents has died, leaving the other on their own potentially for many years - how guilty will you feel moving back to Oz then?
I can to a certain extent empathise with how you feel although can never know exactly how someone else is feeling. I have been through the wanting to go back many times and I'm sure I will continue to have these episodes for many years to come. It just isn't going to happen though because the future lies with our children, not our parents and Australia has far more opportunities for them than the UK.
We decided before we left the UK that if we really ever wanted to go back, it would have to be after all the kids had left home and were settled in their own lives. We couldn't unsettle them twice in their vulnerable teenage years.
27 Jun 2010 9:06 AM
|Thanks and yes we've been through all that, and really don't want to unsettle the kids, but they are still in contact with best friends in the UK and always asking to go back and visit them which is not an option, it's bad enough me and hubby going back every 18 months one at a time leaving each behind with the kids for 3 weeks and it's hard we were never apart for very long in the UK and it's also finanacially a big big burden.
We just can't just abandon your family back home even though that's what we did when we came we were niaeve thinking we could pop back anytime time likle we were just in europe or something it's a long way. Most of our family have come to visit us and know what we have here and are happy for us, we are not happy and thats that It's just not working our heart has taken over our minds if you like.
we know lots of families do this and even come back again and if our children settle back here we will have to follow them but we also think having still close friends in the UK and just a big family network of cousins they will be happy.
I would go back tmrow but we have a dog now so he has to be rabbies vacinnated and wait 6 months before we can take him back. but we are willing to go through all that to come back I think that says it all how much we want it.
good luck to you and your family xx|
05 Jul 2010 10:33 AM
Long time no speak love!!
I am sorry you have decided to go back home, but everyone has to do what is right for them, I wish you all the luck and happiness in the world and I hope you settle back into your lives back home.